In the Nacirema tribe, during the courting phase, men signal that they want to speak with a woman by blowing a horn hollowed from rhinoceros tusks -- each woman has a different tune assigned specifically to her.
Nacirema women have been known to get quite obsessive about these horn-calls, spending hours each day waiting for the sound of the horn.
I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.
I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.
Boomer parents bewail the hookup culture that they say has replaced dating, while their adult children stare into the abyss of Craigslist and wonder whether they even know what dating is.