Positivity doesn’t mean being fake We’re not saying you should start writing things like ‘My world is filled with sunshine and I’m looking for someone to skip down the rainbow of life with’.
That would be a) probably incorrect and b) sickening.
But when I started writing people’s online dating profiles for e-Cyrano.com, all that changed. By the end of our phone call, I’d pare down what they’d said into an enticing short story while marketing their date-ability in the process.
I’d make sure that every sentence focused on what the reader—your future boyfriend or girlfriend—could expect when dating you.
“Looking for a partner in crime,” “Are you my other half? in neuroscience yet wouldn’t even get an associate’s degree in “Writing an Online Dating Profile 101.” Many of our clients were successful, personable people (from grad students to physicists) who would make great girlfriends and boyfriends—once they had a dating profile that made them sound unique, one that couldn’t be cut and pasted into someone else’s.
” and, my favorite, “I like candlelit dinners, sunsets and walks on the beach” (yes, people still say that! If you look at ten random profiles right now, I bet you’ll find the same thing—everyone’s “funny” and “laid-back” and “adventurous.” I used to have a standard, generic profile, too, with a list of adjectives and facts: fun, outgoing, great speller (looking back, not sure how that applied), and insert-a-bunch-of-other-adjectives here. First, I would spend 30-60 minutes talking to the client.
It also doesn’t mean that you need to desperately sell yourself; instead, employ a positive mindset when writing, or ensure that you’re naturally in a good mood when you start.