Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.” ― Kahlil Gibran, “It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone.
If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs.
“Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating.
Physical attraction is trumped by the pure love of God that couples can show one another.