Boy do guys get offended when I don’t go out with them because they have young children that are at the center of their lives! If it was a clean divorce/break up with no kids then she isn’t in the picture.
I mean I always say never say never, because anything’s possible. I don’t mean to offend or exclude anyone but I just can’t do it. Don’t forget the mothers, you also have to deal with her too. Now, you never know, I might be proven wrong one day and meet an amazing guy with kids who his life in order.
They are kids of divorced parents, so they are used to being spoiled and going to NYC- no holds barred. teacher, I am always concerned about lawsuits and accountability. It's a tactical game reaching the same result but it is better when you approach it on these reserved terms (not mixing in and telling your opinion but as 'defense' explaining why you don't mingle with them).
She is always happy to see me (she thinks I'm her new best friend that she likes to show off to people) I think she is beginning to see daddy may also be friends with me that I'm not just "hers"...tonight while my bf was in the kitchen I asked her if she wanted to help me find a DVD..said out of the blue..."you're not my mommy, and you don't live here" ... I said, I know and asked her again if she wanted to help with the DVD...
I've never dated a man with a child.a man that's been married. I don't know how to be a part of her life without being irritating to her or hurting her.
The kids learn seem to thrive when they know what their schedule is and what thier limits are. I don't want to sound critical of his parenting, especially since I have no children of my own.
I would like to have a relationship with his children, but since I feel I am always biting my tongue, I make myself scarce when they come to visit.
Furthermore, he is suffering from guilt to the point where the child has the most say in all situations -there is very little structure or discipline.